Hasn’t everyone got one of those? You know, those little things that make you uniquely you, like chewing loudly, biting your nails or the skin around your nails, peeing loudly or always pressing the middle part of the toothpaste tube that irritates the people around you. Can you think of even one person that hasn’t got one of those? Maybe she doesn’t do any of those but every time she closes her eyes to sleep you hear that sound as if a fully loaded trailer is crashing into your house. What about that annoying sound she makes every morning when she clears her throat from the inside and sneezes like there’s a sac of dust in her nose. You try to understand when she tells you that it’s an allergy she’s had since childhood but you can’t help shouting at her to stay away from you whenever she’s sneezing.
I still can’t think of one person who hasn’t got one of those. She hates the way you laugh loudly when you tell a joke that only you find funny and she doesn’t even hide her disgust. You hate the fact that she doesn’t find any of your jokes funny, afterall your past girlfriends always laughed at your jokes. You think she takes forever to do her house chores or dress up and is in fact pretty slow at everything. You like everything placed properly at the appropriate place but he doesn’t seem to know that dirty clothes go into the laundry basket and neat clothes stay folded in the wardrobe. She makes that nerve racking sound in her sleep as if she’s gnashing her teeth, he always sloshes water on the bathroom floor and never remembers to shut the shower curtains when taking his bath. You hate the way he’s selfish with his things. He won’t let you touch his car keys or use any of his ‘toys’. You hate that she likes to borrow your things. Sometimes you stare at him in frustration, wondering if you could just wring his ears and get away with it.
Some nights you go to bed hating his flaws so much that you think of quitting. The next morning you wake up and remember all the wonderful reasons you love him; the tender look in his eyes when he gazes at you, the way he smiles when you see him after work, the way he helps you lift heavy stuff, the wise ideas she always gives when you’re at a difficult spot, her willingness to assist you even before you ask for her help and the feeling of well-being you get when you are together.
Isn’t it just amazing how much flaws we’ve all got and yet we have to still stick together, knowing that it is our flaws that make us uniquely human? It is the mark of imperfection we all bear as human beings. Before you start harping on someone else’s flaws just remember that you’ve got a log of wood in your own eyes. Matt 7:3 Before you start getting mad about someone’s flaws could you just remind yourself that they also have to put up with your own flaws. If we could only learn to accept others and see them the way God sees us, then our relationships will definitely be much better.