How to get the girl of your dreams


I guess over a million articles have been written on how to get the man of your dreams, how to get him to propose to you, how to make him fall in love with you and etcetera. Right there, while writing all those stuff women want to hear, nobody remembers that the man is not a superhuman. Getting a girl he likes is not a skill that comes naturally to him. As a matter of fact, women are probably better prepared for relationships in life because right from childhood, her mom, some aunty or cousin starts drumming it into her ears that she has to play hard-to-get for a man #MakeHimSweatFirst 😀 so that he will value you more. She is taught how to keep a man fascinated and with the myriads of articles on it, she is more than prepared for relationships.

For the man, it is so not the same. Very few fathers have time to teach their sons how to get a girl and so most of the time he depends on stuff he hears from his friends (who don’t really know better, anyway), stuff he watches on TV or he simply does it the way he feels. The few lucky ones get it right through their natural talents or pick up some good skills after getting it wrong a few times. Some others are so cute that the girls naturally do all the chasing and they only make their choices. Still some others try and fail so much and they keep wondering why they can’t seem to get the girl they really want. Is there something wrong or something they aren’t doing right? There are two things you must know; first, not every girl will like you the way you like her because she may well be the girl of your dream but you may not be the man of her dream and secondly you cannot always make someone like you. Try your best with a few good steps but if the response is not positive then know when to bow out.  

Some people say that husbands are scarce and there are so many girls available every where. Recently, I’ve heard guys say that girls are everywhere but wives are scarce. Surprising right? They say that the available girls are everywhere but they find it difficult to get the ones they really want. Just because you want a car doesn’t mean that you’d be happy to drive pure water (with due respect to pure water owners). A man also wants to get the girl of his dream.

You’ve also heard it said that good girls always go for the bad boys. Why is that? It’s very sigood girlsmple. The bad boys are the ones that know how to get the girls. Good guys often carry last (#thesadtruth). Have you also noticed that the bad guys aren’t always the most handsome or the richest ones? They just know the right things to say and they have the best techniques. As the very nice girl that I am, I decided to do a little fact finding for you guys so I asked the few bad guys I know what their secrets are and what charm they use in getting all the girls. You want to know what I discovered? Well, in order not to make this a very long post, I’ve decided to end it here and wait for your go-ahead to conclude it. Ladies, if you feel the guys really need to hear this then I need your consent and gents if you want to hear this then also feel free to say so.

Till I get your go-ahead…keep being blessed and have a fruitful week.



NB: Hey Femmes, I’m starting a new sub-category under my Memoirs of a Single Christian Chic called Last First dates. There some first dates that end with goodbye forever simply because someone did something stupid or did not do something right. If you have any hilarious experience that is worth sharing then please send me a brief summary of your story to my e-mail, Don’t worry your identity will be kept private if you so wish. Meanwhile, I’m sharing mine first 😉 .

Flying witches by day

Large high heel looming over businesswoman

Dreams do come true, you know. Everybody has a dream or at least once had a dream. The most common of all dreams is the dream to succeed in life. In fact, that is one dream we don’t even need to close our eyes at night to have. You may be sitting in a chair, having a drink with friends or just napping and the dream starts. You will wake up with that euphoric feeling that drives you harder towards success. To really live, you need to have a dream. That dream is hope. That dream is the one we hope will one day come true.

Well, there are other kinds of dreams we don’t even want to remember when we wake up. You know the kind of dream where you see witches flying in the noontime. The kind of witches that don’t wait for the cover of darkness to bare their fangs and ride their supernatural long-broom-fighter-jets to wreck havoc on your life. The kind of dream you scream without a sound and wonder if that is the day you will breathe your last…lol.

If you were given a chance to choose your dreams I know there’s no way you would want to dream of noonday witches. You’d rather not sleep than have such dreams or maybe you’ll prefer to sleep at a shrine that night, never mind that the ridiculous images hanging there should be enough to terrify anybody. Okay, this is the type of dream you’d rather not talk about and the kind you pray will never come true.

Talking about dreams and success, do you ever wonder if you have the capacity to handle success when God grants it to you? I see you shrugging, saying to yourself, ‘Do I need any special skill to handle success? Anybody can handle success now.’ Please not everybody can handle success. In fact, for some people it is better not to even attain success. They sleep better at night and nap well in the daytime without success. In fact, if it were possible to ask God for a reversal of their success and to forgive them for ever nagging Him with their prayers, they would have done so rather than live with the result of their success.

Success requires courage!

After God grants you success you need courage to live with it. Some people work so hard and after they succeed, they stay awake at night afraid that someone will break into the house and take it all away. Some others pray for jobs and after they get the job they become paranoid, thinking someone in their office must be haunting them. Maybe you have been praying for a promotion and from the day you got that promotion, you started seeing shadows walking beside you in the daytime, thinking that your colleagues are jealous enough to send spiritual forces after you. Your prayers are no longer about excelling in your new position, you’re too busy calling the names of the witches you suspect are after you. There’s no way you can accept to sit on the chair of the person you took over from, she must have dropped some kind of spiritual poison on it. In fact, your first task as soon as you take over the office is to get a new chair and get the cleaners to remove all the cobwebs in the office just in case she uses them as spiritual antennae to monitor your progress.

Ladies, we need to get rid of all these superstitious beliefs that we jumble up with our Christianity. The way people get so frightened whenever they hear about witches and wizards is so funny. How can you be afraid of something you are greater than? Worst of all some ‘gospel hustlers’ and MOG are making use of this to take hold of people. Any MOG who truly has the spirit of God in him will tell you that ‘greater is he that is in you than he that is in the world.’ Do you know where you rank in spiritual hierarchy? The word of God says that ‘what is man that you have made him just a little lower than Elohim’ and theologians have interpreted that verse to mean that man is just a little lower than God. You can’t be a child of God and still be so terrified of people sending spiritual forces against you. If anything, you should be more worried about someone stabbing you physically in the back. That’s the one you may not be able to control physically. As for the spiritual one, forget it. You are more than a conqueror. You are seated with Christ far above principalities and powers.

So, if you want to be the Femmetotale, forget the witches flying at noontime. That’s the most they can do. As a matter of fact, they should be terrified of you.